Baby Registry Checklist

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What You Really Need to Register for:

When I had my first baby I took the list that I was given at Babies R Us and followed it religiously.  With each additional baby the list of needs and wants has changed quite a bit!  There were so many things that I received that I did not use or need.  So this time I registered I decided to make a list of the baby items I really needed.  If people are going to spend their hard earned money on me I would rather then spend it on things I need as opposed to things that will go unused.

I know that you are wondering what I took off of the list.  So many first time moms wonder what they really need to have for the baby!  So here is my list of needs:

  • Car seat:  You will need an infant car seat right away.  As for booster seats and car seats for older kids you do not need them for at least a year.  This will mean that you will have to store this item for a year or more until you are ready to use it.
  • Stroller: I would say that this is a need.  It is too hard to go out into the world with a baby and not have something to help you in your travels.  I would recommend a travel system.  This way you will not have to wake the baby each time you go somewhere.  You just take the infant carrier and move it into the stroller.
  • Backpacks and Carriers: I would say that you need a carrier but could skip the backpack.  There are many carriers that convert into a backpack as the baby grows.  If you get the backpack it will be another item that you cannot use right away which means more storage items.
  • Play Yard: For me this is a need.  When the baby is first born we use the play yard as a bassinet in our room.  As the baby grown the play yard acts as a wonderful place to contain the baby while you take that much needed shower or while you do the dishes.  The play yard will act as a bed on vacation for at least 2 years.  It is well worth the $100-$150 you will spend on it!
  • Swing: Up until my youngest I would have put this as a baby need.  My first two girls loved the swing and it afforded me an opportunity to relax a little.  My youngest was unable to see as an infant and was only in the swing 2 times. All in all I would say that a baby swing of some sort is a need.  There are many options from cradle swings, to travel swings to traditional swings.  I would say your house only needs one.
  • Baby Gym: These are also a need. Many parents forget how important tummy time is for babies!  The more tummy time a baby has the quicker they will crawl and walk.
  • Bouncers: I would say that this is also a need.  The nice part is that there are many swings now that have a detachable bouncy seat.  This is like getting 2 items for the price of 1.
  • Bottles: Even if you are breastfeeding this is a need.  You never know when you will need them but most mommies find that they need them at some point.
  • Burp Cloths: While these are a need I recommend buying cloth diapers and using them as burp cloths.  This is cheaper and to be honest they hold a lot more spit up and are bigger.
  • Eating Accessories: In my opinion these items are not a need.  These items are items that could be purchased at a later date and will again have to be stored.  Skip the spoons, bowls and so on for now.
  • Baby Bath Tub: Again this is not something I consider a need.  Using the kitchen sink is so much easier.  There is also so much less to clean up this way.  A baby bath tub means that you will have to do a lot of bending or that water will be where it should not!
  • High Chair: This is another thing that I would consider to be a need.  It is important to have a few places where you can contain the baby.  Because many high chairs recline and have 5 point harness systems this offers a safe place to put the baby down while you are eating.
  • Baby Gates: These items are another group that could wait until your new little one is moving around somewhere.  This is also an item that is safe to buy in garage sales or off of Craigs list.  The choice is yours but in my personal opinion I would wait.
  • Bedding: While this is not a need I would say register for it if you know what you would like your nursery to be.  Other bedding such as blankets and sheets should make it onto your baby registry.

I would not put clothing on your baby registry.  When people are shopping your registry list they will not be able to resist the cute clothing in each aisle.  Most of all have fun.  Make sure that you take a few hours out of your schedule to register.  I walk up and down each aisle and see what I need and what I want.  Most of all… Have fun!

Becca

What to expect in: Week 20

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Pregnancy is a fun and exciting time.  Even though this is my fourth pregnancy it is still proving to be an exciting time.  Week 20 is bringing new emotions and feelings.  It also means that the baby in my belly is getting bigger and bigger with each day!  So here are some fun week 20 facts:

  • At 20 weeks the baby is about 6.5 inches long!  More than half of a ruler!  It is amazing how much more the baby will grow in the next 20 weeks.
  • At 20 weeks the baby weighs almost 1 pound.  While that is not heavy it is amazing that by the time the baby is full term it will be between 6-10 pounds on average.  That is a lot of growing!
  • At a 20 week sonogram you should be able to determine the sex of the baby.  I had a sonogram last week in which the baby did not cooperate.  Today I am off for another sonogram.  So keep your fingers crossed for us!
  • At 20 weeks the baby has established a sleep pattern.  All I have noticed is that my baby is always the most awake at 10pm.  This is NOT good!

While there are a lot of fun facts about how the baby is changing this week there are also a lot of fun facts about me!  Here are some 20 Weeks fun facts for mommy:

  • At 20 weeks you are halfway there.  I am lucky enough to be having a planned c-section so I am more than half way there!
  • At 20 weeks pregnant your uterus is about level with your belly button.
  • It is time to sign up for a childbirth education class if you have not already done so.
  • At 20 weeks you may want to start thinking about registering for what you need and want for the baby!  Babies R US is a great place to register because friends and family from afar can shop your registry as well.

The baby will be here before I know it.  Now is the time to start preparing and getting ready!  21 Weeks is right around the corner.  I cannot wait to see what it brings.

Becca

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What to Expect: Baby News

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As many of you may or may not know… We are expecting a new addition to our family.  It is funny how with the first baby you think of everything, you plan out the child’s entire life before it is born and you baby yourself while you are pregnant.  Well for us, this is number 4 and there is no time for any of it.  This baby WILL be our last baby which brings mixed feelings… On one hand it is hard to say goodbye to the beautiful and wonderful experience that having a baby brings…. on the other hand we are getting older and are ready to embark on the next chapter of life.

So now we beg the question… will it be a boy or a 4th girl?  Personally I say it is a girl.  Part of me is hoping that it will be a girl because it is what I know.  Part of me is thinking that a boy would be a nice change of pace after 3 girls.  I am certainly ready to know what I am having because either way… I have to re-buy everything… I did peak at the price of formula the other day and almost died!  This baby will take some careful preparation.

So after a bumpy first trimester I have moved onto my second trimester.  The feelings of sour stomach and fatigue are beginning to lift and I am starting to feel like I may live through all of this.  So wish me luck and please stay tuned… I am sure that the next 6 months will bring some great experiences.

Becca

Let me know what you think… Is it a girl or a boy?

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Time Out: Does it Work? Parenting Tips

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Time out is one of those parenting tips that everyone throws around.  It is something that is supposed to work.  I think that it all depends on the kid.  I have found that there are some things that you have to make sure happen when you do time out.  They have worked for my oldest, my middle daughter and even my two year old gets the idea.  The trouble is that even I forget that time out can work because from time to time I get too emotional.

Yes it is true that I tend not to keep my cool.  I yell and yell and yell a little more.  Then I throw them in time out while screaming some more.  I yell most of the time they are in time out.  If they stay in time out that is.

Then there are those other days when I do time out right.  Here are the steps that you are supposed to take with time out.  I have found time and time again that when I follow them time out is much more effective.

  1. Have an area in your house that is the time out spot.  This can be a step, a time out chair, a mat on the floor, or even a large stuffed toy
  2. Do not make your time out spot in a child’s bedroom.  This is where all of their toys and things that they love are.  If they are told to stay there where is the punishment?
  3. Only place your child in time out for 1 minute per year.  So if your child is 6 then they should remain in time out for 6 minutes.  This is because your child’s attention spans grow with the child.  You cannot expect a 2 year old to sit in time out for 10 minutes.  they just do not have it in them.
  4. When you are placing your child in time out remain calm.  This is so that the message is not lost.  If you remember way back when you were a child I think that you will remember that you stopped listening once people were yelling at you.   Kids are no different right now.
  5. Tell your child why you are placing them in time out.  Say, “Abby, I you need a time out because we do not speak that way in this house.”  This makes it clear to the child what they have done.
  6. Set the timer and walk away.  It is important not to engage your child when they are in time out.  If they get out of time out, place them back and restart the timer.  DO NOT TALK TO THEM.  This feeds into the game that they want you to play.
  7. When time out is over tell your child again why they were placed in time out.
  8. Do not force your child to say that they are sorry.  This is my own personal belief.  All you are doing is forcing the child to lie.   If they are sorry they will say so on their own.  I think that you should never tell a child to say sorry when they are not.  Many times the child is not sorry.  You are not looking for sorrow.  You are looking for an understanding of what they did and that it was not acceptable in your home.

Sounds easy right.  If you look at Nanny Jo on Supper Nanny she will even make you think that it is simple.  For those of you who know me you know that I am not a sugar coat it kind of person.  IT IS HARD.  It takes a lot of work and you have to be dedicated.

One more note… It is alright that you take a time out if you need one.  I have done it before and it works.  Sometimes it is not the kids but the adult who needs a break.

Do not handle time out like my favorite episode of Lucky Louise.  He did it all wrong!

Becca

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Is My Baby Blind?? Part III

So there I was at home that afternoon.  Abigail and Emma were still in school.  This meant that I could look online and learn all that I could about blindness in infants.  I know that babies are not able to see well the first few days of life.  I read and read all afternoon.  I did not see anything good.  I saw ways to help your blind child, I saw ways to tell if your child is blind and a million other things.  I kept doing the experiments suggested in hope that she would see something and I could end all of this.

So I shined a light in her eyes, I pointed her to the window to see if she would look out it.  I did everything that every web site had said to do and still nothing.  I cried for about 5 minutes and then picked myself up!  I said, “OK so she is blind.  There are worse things.  She is healthy other then that!  You can do this.”   And there it was.  Just like with the Mastocytosis (which can become cancerous), just like the cerebral palsy I could do this.  It was all going to be alright.  I said it again and again and again until I believed it.  I started to read about what to do with children who are blind.  I read all about ways to stimulate blind babies.  If I could not change it then by God I would educate myself about it. analiese-coming-home-from-h2

As I called my husband and told him he had the same response that his mother had.  I told him all the things I had been looking at and was, by this point, even cracking jokes.  I told him that we could get another dog now because Analiese would need a seeing eye dog.  He even started cracking jokes about it which are worse then my dog one so I will leave it out.  We were ready for whatever was to come.  I guess it is the kind of thing we had been faced with before.  We learned early on to accept it, deal with it and move on!  Now I was in the moving on stages by the afternoon.  That is until my in laws all got together and sent a huge margarita glass filled with flowers.  I cannot tell you what the card said but there I was crying again.  Partly because it was all too much and partly because it is always nice to know that you are loved!  Love was what I needed right now and they knew it.  That is why they are so great!

All day I helped Analiese and tried to get her to track things.  My father was convinced she was following a rattle.  I had explained to him that she was following the noise and after about 30 minutes of trying other things he gave me a great big bear hug.  This is what my daddy is best at.  It was his way of saying it is not fair.  You have too much.  It was his way of loving me.  It was his way of saying it would all be OK.  Just like daddy always does!

Becca

Links to the Full Series

Baby Blind Part I
Baby Blind Part II
Baby Blind Part III
Baby Blind Part IV
Baby Blind Part V

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