Back to School: What Do You Really Need to Buy?

We are only 6 days away now and back to school is all I can think about.  I will admit that it is because I am anxious to see the kids out of my house back at school.  They thrive under structure which the summer just does not provide.  So as we get closer and closer I started to think about the fact that I have done NO back to school shopping yet.  For a few moments I was really worried.  My heart beat sped up and the headache started to come on.  I was in a panic yesterday thinking about how I will afford all of it and how will I get it in the next few days.

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The more I thought about it the more I realized that there was just not a huge need, like I kept thinking there was.  So I made a list of what I needed to buy and what I wanted to buy.  I think that given the current state of the economy, I am not alone in my desire to separate wants versus needs.  The school does not help too much.  They want you to buy book sox.  I did find them in Walmart for $.50 each but come on.  Why is it that we do not reuse… You know the keys to a greener earth… Reduce, recycle and REUSE…?  Why do we have to buy something to cover a book?  I remember taking my paper grocery bags and spending time with my parents learning the fine art of book covering.  This was real bonding time.  Instead of this free option I had to add $2.50 to my budget.  Seems wrong to me.

Either way here is what I came up with:

Needs:

  1. All supplies on the kids lists
  2. A bookbag (we have decided to reuse old ones.  We are going to bedazzle them so that they are more fun this year)
  3. New shoes for Abigail: She grew like a flower this summer

I think that all in all that is all of the NEEDS we have.  Grandpa and Grandma were nice enough to buy about 90% of the school supplies.  So once I buy shoes my NEEDS are met.

Wants:

  1. New first day of school outfits
  2. New fall wardrobe
  3. New hair accessories to match all of their clothing
  4. New lunch bags
  5. A JanSport book bag for Abigail
  6. Winter coats
  7. Haircuts for the girls
  8. Fall jackets
  9. Book bag for Emma
  10. New shoes for Emma

The thing is that these are only wants.  It became clear the more I thought about it that we did not NEED these things.  I usually spend about $800 on back to school.  This year I estimate spending about $100.  I am sure that I am not the only one tightening my belt.  Abigail has a birthday in three weeks.  I am sure that between myself and her grandparents she will be the best dressed kid in 4th grade.  Most of the clothing out there for back to school is too hot for September anyway.  I will let you all know how this goes.  I am anxious to see how bad I am going to feel for not buying into the back to school.  I think that I may feel bad for a while but in the long run it will all be just fine!  The kids ARE going to live through it.  They WILL still be dressed nicely.  The most important thing is that it teaches them a lesson.  Money does not grow on trees…

LESSON LEARNED:  You do not have to buy into the commercial hoopla.  You can resist and live through it.

Becca

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Self Esteem and Peer Pressure

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As a child we go through life acting like we should be different from who we are.  I am watching Abigail grow up and develop and am praying that I have instilled in her the ability to be herself.  I have never had the gift of just being me.   I guess I have spent too many years worrying that no one will like the real me.  As a kid it is hard to realize who you are and what you are about.  It is so easy to fall into peer pressure and go the wrong way.

I have spent the past 8 years helping my baby realize that we have to care for others.  I have showed her that we have to love in order to be loved.  I have tried to instill the idea that we feel good when we help others.  Most of all I have tried to remind her each step of the way in her short life that we all have brains and she has to use hers.

As she is blossoming I am starting to worry more and more about the lessons that I have taught her.  She knows that smoking is just plain bad for your health and stupid.  I have been sure to let her know that with just on cigarette she could be addicted for life.  I have tried to tell her about drugs and all of the bad things that they do to people.  It is not the people who are bad it was their choices.

I am sitting here in the summer before 4th grade hoping that she has the self esteem not to fall into peer pressure.  I am praying that she knows to say no as we have practiced.  I am praying that she knows that she can tell me anything even if it is bad.   I am praying that her walk down the teenage years is easier for her then mine was for me.

I am amazed how we give birth to these little angels and change them.  I do not know how to make sure that she stays safe other then to remind her each and every day that she has a mind of her own and pray that she is confident enough to use it.

Becca

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