Last week I took the plunge.  I joined www.facebook.com just like everyone around had said I should do.  The first day I was hooked.  I found “friends” that I have not talked to in years.  I found people just wanting to be nosy and people I do not even know trying to be my friend.  Perhaps I did know them at one point but my mommy mind has blocked them out.  I found that I was popular for the first time ever.  People wanted to be my “friend”.  I chatted a lot and I explored.  Now it has been a week and the hype has died down a bit.

Do not get me wrong.  It was great catching up with people who I have not talked to in 10 years.  They are all starting to have babies now and are telling of their wonderful jobs.  A part of me has become jealous.  I opted to stay home with my kids and never had a career out of college.  These are people that I “lost touch with”.   The question remains did we loose touch or loose interest?

I have a friend who always has told me that at some point you outgrow certain friends.  Your paths move differently.  It can be a slow process or it can be as fast as graduating from college.  Either way those friendships are lost forever.  With this in mind I have now entered a whole world of these friends whom I have “out grown”.  I honestly do not care to remember many of the stupid things we did and did not even like some of them when I was their “friend”.  I know that we are all having the same thoughts but no one is willing to admit it.

So the question becomes can we grow back into a friend?  These people who we had less and less in common with have changed as have I.  So do we see if we are back at similar points in life or do we sit and have a few memories and move on from it?  This is the Facebook question that it perplexing to me.  I am not sure of the answer.

So for now I am talking to people whom I had forgotten about, people that I have wondered about and people I had no use for 10 years ago.  I think that it will all be quite interesting in the end to see if anything comes of any of it.

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