This weekend something quite heart wrenching happened to someone I know. It has shaken me to the core of my sole. I am a Girl Scout Leader and the worst thing has happened to another leader’s daughter. She died two nights ago. My thoughts and prayers are with them. I just cannot imagine if it were me. For the past 48 hours that is all I have done. I cannot stop imagining.
I have not spoken to the mother herself but from what I understand their daughter was feeling a little sick on Friday. By Saturday morning she had a fever and her mother took her to the doctor. The doctor assured her that her daughter was fine and sent them home. The rest of the day her daughter rested. Then, as the mother was going to bed, the mother went to check in on her daughter. She found her daughter in distress. I guess at this point she called 911 but it is too late.
I am crying while typing. This woman has a heart of gold. She is about the nicest woman you ever wat to meet. Her daughter was only 12 years old. Her life ended much too quickly. As of now they do not know what caused her death. Her parents sat around waiting to hear from the medical examiner all day yesterday.
I guess my point in posting this is to remind all of us of a few things:
- Even though your kids annoy you smile and let it go. They are just kids.
- Kiss them and hold them every chance you get. You never know when it will be the last time.
- Always say I love you before they leave.
I know this all seems so obvious and simple but think about it. I am sure that there are days that you are in a rush and forget to kiss them. I am sure that there are days when you just wish they would leave you alone! I am sure that there are days when I love you does not leave your mouth. I just know I would not want that day to be my daughters last!
Becca
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This is such a devastating, heart wrenching tragedy. My thoughts and prayers will be with this family and you as well. There is some information ( brochures/newsletter-what the family is going thru/how to help etc)that may be beneficial to you ( & them at a later point) at http://www.compassionatefriends.org This organization helped me tremendously after the unexpected death of my sister.
Sending you peace & hope during a difficult time.
Lissa
Oh my gosh, this is terrible. My thoughts and prayers go out to the family. I can’t even imagine what that poor little girl went through. It just breaks my heart hearing news like this. I can’t help thinking this is the medical community’s fault. I’ve had some really bad experiences lately with doctors and nurses. My little 4 year old has been sick lately and her pediatricians office told me she was fine and sent me on my way. We eventually ended up in the ER because of my awesome mom who is a nurse guided me through this nightmare. I was scared to death. In the end I changed doctors and found a new doctor who is fantastic. If you want to read more on my medical drama stop by my blog. Take care.
http://mycrazylifewithatoddler.blogspot.com/2009/02/holy-moly-does-it-ever-end.html
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What a tragedy. I can’t begin to imagine what that family must be feeling. I always worry about something happening to my 10 year old son, and I can’t imagine life without him. What a terrible thing to happen to your friends….my thoughts and prayers to all of you.
Oh my gosh, that is just horrible.
Thank you for sharing, even in the midst of your grief.
It’s so important to read what you’ve written, take stock and be grateful.
Oh my goodness, that poor family I can not even begin to imagine what they are going through. Thank you for sharing and thank you for stopping by my blog.
Lissa thanks so much for the resource. I am just heartbroken for them!
Becca
Michelle while I also think that perhaps the doctor has some blame here I am not sure that we can entirely blame them. I think that there is often a higher power here and we are just imperfect people in an imperfect world.
Becca
CK thanks for stopping by. It is important to take stock and love what you do have each and every day you have it!
Becca
How very sad, especially for it to happen so suddenly.
What a tragedy! I am soooo sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for their family.
I’m shaking. Just shaking.
I can’t imagine this, and I don’t want to. I don’t know if I could go on. I am so sorry for this family’s loss.
I’ll say a prayer for you all, and especially this poor family.
I cannot imagine losing a child ever, what a heartbreaking thing for any parent to have to go through
I’ll be saying prayers for the family.
I can’t imagine losing my child. My daugher will be 12 in May. I still have tears in my eyes. This family will be in my thoughts. I want to go get my daughter out of school and give her a big hug.
this is so very very sad I am so sorry that something so sad has happened and all that she can hold onto is the hope of seeing her oneday in heaven.
I will pray for this family and for those that their family touched this will be a shocker to all
Thanks for leaving a comment on my blog. I just prayed for you & the family & those who knew them. That would be horrible & makes me thank God for all the blessings we do have.
I don’t even know what to say. This child’s family is in my thoughts and prayers. You are so right about spending each day as if it is your last. It is so easy to get all wrapped up in things that just don’t really matter when it comes down to it. I’m going to go give my girls a hug.
That is so incredibly sad and as you say, eye opening. It really does put everything into perspective. When we realize all that we have to loose it makes you appreciate even the little things. Thanks for sharing this.
Oh Becca, I’m so sorry to hear about this. It breaks my heart! My prayers go out to your friend and their family!
I can only imagine…
Saying prayers for the family.
Sending you a HUG.
Thanks for visiting my blog today, this post of yours was heart wrenching. You just never know what God’s plan will be. Wow, it makes me have tears, just thinking about it
Cindy
Having two small little girls of my own, I can’t even begin to imagine ANYONE having to go through this. My heart goes out to you and your girlfriend. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
Hi Becca,
This is a sad story. Thank you for writting it, it make me look at my boys in a different way. I take for granted that they will just always be around. What an eye opening article. Thank you.
Mike
KathyB I know that I could not go on after this. I would be done. The world would be over as far as I am concerned.
Everyone… Thank you so much for your support and prayers. I will tell the mother tomorrow that she has touched so many lives. I just cannot believe the support and prayers you all have shared! Thank you!
Becca
That is so horrible. =( I can’t imagine.
Michele I think it is the most terrible thing I have heard of happening to someone I know in a long long time.
Becca
Becca, this is such a sad story. My eyes filled with tears while I was reading. I can’t imagine my life without one of my kids, I love them so much. My prayers are with your friend and her family.
Veronica thank you. The wake is this evening and to be honest I am trying to avoid it even though I know I will go. I am not one who handles these things at all well! Thank you for your prayers. It means a lot!
Becca
I was just stopping by to thank you for visiting my blog. Stories like these make you want to run home and hold on to your kids and never let go. Thank you for the reminder of how truly lucky we are a mothers to have these wonderful little people in our lives.
I’m so sorry.
Like everyone has said, this is heartbreaking. A few weeks ago there was an accident in a school involving a young boy and his nanny. They were allegedly ran over by a car inside the school’s parking lot. And we thought the school is one of the safest places we can leave our children. The nanny survived but the boy did not. It was all over the news and I can’t bear to read every detail. I gave my prayers in silence. And I did the same thing for the girl in your post and her family.
It’s true what you said, no matter how pressuring the day is for me, I try my best to keep my cool with my child. It’s hard especially when the day is hectic. But it’s better that she knows I love her and care for her at any given time. It’s also a good way for me to practice restraint.