How To Win The Battle At Bedtime

How To Win The Battle At Bedtime

Is everyday a battle at bedtime? I know in our house it is often the worst time of day! I want to pull out my hair and start screaming, but that does not work either. Killing them is not

an option, screaming doesn’t work and ignoring it makes it worse. So what is a frantic mother to do? Now that you know that you are not alone we can tackle the problem. Here are 10 quick tips to try tonight to make your night a smoother, happier one:

1. Put your kids to bed at the same time every night. No exceptions!

2. Have an established routine. We eat dinner, start the bath, read a book and sing one song to each of the girls. They know what is next and after a while they do not ask for more. Develop a routine that works for you. Perhaps a song or a family game. Something quite is best. I would not recommend TV or video games because these tend to stimulate kids and make bedtime more difficult.

3. If your child comes out of their room simply walk them back to bed and leave. Do not talk to them or interact with them. This will show them that you mean business and reduce the number of times that they come out.

4. Make sure that they have everything they need to be comfortable. This means their glass of water, the night light on, their special blankie and anything else they will get out of bed for. Assure that these things are done before entering into the room.

5. NEVER let them sleep in your bed! It breaks the routine and gives them excuses. It also means that you and your spouse can have a bed to yourselves!

6. Make a reward chart. We have a chart on Abigail and Emma’s doors. Every night they go to bed on time they get a sticker. After 30 stickers they can pick a prize.

7. Avoid beverages with caffeine after 6pm. These will not only keep your little one wired but will also give them a bladder excuse to get out of bed!

8. Give them a few warnings. If bed time is at 8 tell them at 7:45 that they have 15 more minutes. Then 10 more minutes and then 5 more minutes. This helps children who have trouble transitioning.

9. Exercise is something that makes kids tired at the end of the day! Run them until they cannot run anymore. Play a family game of outdoor fun a few hours before bed. Tag, volleyball, a family walk and bike riding are just a few ideas.

10. Do not linger. Leave your child’s room while they are still awake. That will help them to be able to calm themselves and learn to go to sleep without your help.